The most difficult job on Earth

They never stop. They graduate from school, enter either a college or a university, try so hard to get a job which will set them apart from other adults to be. They stop at nothing, no matter what, they go to great length to build a wealthy future and a prosperous life. Why?

The answer can be on the surface, if we have a closer look. Those children do not actually have a slightest choice. Their parents want them to be happy and therefore push their offspring to the older life world, demolishing the roots, paths and bridges leading back. A teenager hears so many don’ts and musts, so it gets impossible for them to live their own life. Unfortunately, their  priority list (written by their supportive nurtures, of course) never involves hobbies, hanging out with friends and relaxing in front of the telly or with a book.

We must face it. Sometimes, the parental benevolence can be overwhelming and they do not enlighten their progeny. On the contrary, they just want to have things their own way, forbidding the children to speak their mind.  No one really cares what a student to be wants. And when they occasionally starts to act up, trying to stick for themselves, the wise mentors, without even a bit of remorse, grumble about the generation gap and ungrateful kids.

To my mind, youth are not obliged to follow their parents’ plans if they, even somewhere deep down, think differently or disagree. And in spite of the fact, that there is usually a grain of truth in what the older relatives want and wish, they should not take their child’s obedience for granted. If they brought up a future ballet dancer or an artist, not a desired lawyer or a doctor in fifth generation, so be it.

Being a wise parent, who leads but not pushes, is a difficult job. The most difficult one. So, perhaps, before looking through all of those university brochures,  we should look at the mirror first and ask ourselves a simple question: “Am I doing this right?”

5 thoughts on “The most difficult job on Earth

  1. Lagertha Lodbrok

    I just feel most teenagers don’t even have a clue as to what they’d like to do with their lives, which gradually becomes the main reason why they end up in ‘wrong’ faculties, bringing them to the walks of life where they feel insecure, miserable and hateful, breaking their backs over something they have neither talent nor desire to work on. A teen gets into a university based on the vacant spots available or the amount of money their parents can afford to spend, but the actual necessity of such type of education is a completely different story… I guess that’s the moment when young people start getting absorbed into this dystopia, thinking that happiness is for the chosen few and the majority of us are just confined to the no-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel routine. Stressful mornings, an angry partner, a grey stinky bus, a random babooshka pushing her wheelie-bag across your foot, and most importantly, a horrendous boss, who does not only rule the roost of your office, but your whole life.

    I completely agree that it’s the parents’ job to guide their children through their lives. Having said that, I couldn’t agree more that it’s also the parents’ job to show the diversity of life to their kids and let them choose. Show them they are not slaves. Act like Abraham Lincoln and grant their kids freedom!

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  2. Marina

    The story of my life) I have to fight for what I think is right for me. And I am really grateful to my parents for not standing in my way)

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  3. Kristina

    It’s no wonder that when we ask many teenagers what they want to do or to be, they honestly answer “I don’t know” or their current favorite “Whatever” are too many layers of “should’s”, “ought to’s” and “you’d better’s” piled on the top of and suffocating what they really.

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  4. MShepelenko

    Can it be that the youth does no have a clue about what to do in life because it routinely spends vast amounts of time learning about 18-19 century russian aristocracy’s silly pastimes for years at school? Seriously, is it not a lavish waste of time for a young person? I mean, when you are retired do by all means plunge into these highly irrelevant realms of russian fiction, self-reflecting idly, moaning incessantly. But how is the knowledge of hunting or posh balls or say russian peasants’ life can be applicable to anything in our modern age? Would be a great deal wiser to abolish this practise and spend more time on science or reading about acute problems of our contemporaries. Education should ideally prepare kids for real life, tough as it is, and preferably be conducive to succeeding in it.

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